Courage to Ask Out Your Crush
The fear of rejection is one of the most universal human fears and that fear is no more apparent than when it comes to asking your crush out on a date. You’ll sit there for hours and play out the scenario time and again in your head, thinking about what you’ll say, how he’ll respond, and where you’ll go from there. Of course, the reality never quite lines up with your expectations, and that’s what makes the whole thing so terrifying. Working through the fear and actually making your move can be nightmarish, but these tips will help you get through it.
Tip #1: Psych Yourself Up
It may seem obvious, but you’ve really got to spend some time doing this if you don’t want to choke when the big moment comes. By psyching yourself up, we simply mean reaffirming to yourself that you are worth your crushes’ time and more importantly, realizing that the worst thing that can happen is that he’ll say no. When you think about it, the stress of mulling over whether or not your crush will be into you is much harder to deal with than a one-time rejection. It’s best to just go for it, one way or the other.
Tip #2: Practice Makes Perfect
If you can’t quite work up the courage yet, try building your confidence when there’s less at stake. Go out and just ask someone else who you find attractive and interesting out, even if it’s someone you’ve never met. It’ll go one of two ways: he’ll say yes and your confidence will be boosted, or he’ll say no and you’ll realize that rejection isn’t the end of the world. Either way, it’ll move you one step closer to your end goal of asking out your crush.
Tip #3: The Backup Plan
If you still can’t get over your paralyzing anxiety, one way to approach the situation may be to have a “backup plan” that will help lessen the blow of rejection. If he says no, you can play it off like you were only asking him on a bet or something like that. He might not buy it, but it will at least defuse any awkward moments and let you save a little face.
These tips can only get you so far – when it comes down to it you’ve just got to go for it and ask the question. If nothing else, do it to put your own mind at ease!