Category: Overcome an Issue

Surviving a Big Fight

Getting Past a Nasty Spat

In relationships, fighting is inevitable. Some would even say that if you aren’t fighting with your partner occasionally, you’re doing something wrong and your relationship lacks passion. While that may or may not be an exaggeration, for the majority of couples, fights are just par for the course. Fights are rarely if ever fun, but since they do happen, it’s important to know how to deal with them and not let them ruin an otherwise happy relationship.

The most important thing to remember when it comes to fighting in relationships is to control your temper. Obviously, this is easier said than done. If controlling ones temper was easy, there’d be a lot more happy couples and a lot less fights. Sometimes, tempers boiling over are inevitable.

When our tempers do get the best of us, being able to realize when you’ve crossed a line and when you need to apologize is vital.

Too many people get into fights, say or do things that they regret, but refuse to apologize out of stubborn pride. If you say something needlessly hurtful to your partner, it’s important to acknowledge it and let them know that you feel bad about doing it. If you let these kinds of things fester, they will surely bring down your relationship. Maybe not immediately, but negative feelings do have a nasty way of building up over time.

Along the same lines, knowing how to accept an apology is also a useful skill for surviving fights. In the heat of an argument, it can be tempting to throw your partner’s apology back in their face or make them feel like their apology isn’t good enough. In the end, this will only make them resent you. Its okay to need cooldown time after getting angry, but once your head is in a better place, do your best to stay open to apologies. Don’t underestimate the power of forgiveness – it can easily make or break a relationship.

One classic piece of advice for fighting couples is to “never go to bed angry.

” The reason for this is that if you just throw up your hands and give up on a problem for the night, chances are it’ll just fall by the wayside and never really be addressed. This will almost inevitably lead to problems down the road, particularly if the same problem keeps cropping up. That said, sometimes you can’t solve a problem without sleeping on it – so the real takeaway here is that if you do go to bed angry, make sure to get some closure before too much time has passed.

Hopefully these tips will help make your next fight a little more bearable and your resolutions more successful. Good luck!

Overcome Your Fear – Asking Out Your Crush

Courage to Ask Out Your Crush

The fear of rejection is one of the most universal human fears and that fear is no more apparent than when it comes to asking your crush out on a date. You’ll sit there for hours and play out the scenario time and again in your head, thinking about what you’ll say, how he’ll respond, and where you’ll go from there. Of course, the reality never quite lines up with your expectations, and that’s what makes the whole thing so terrifying. Working through the fear and actually making your move can be nightmarish, but these tips will help you get through it.

Tip #1: Psych Yourself Up

It may seem obvious, but you’ve really got to spend some time doing this if you don’t want to choke when the big moment comes. By psyching yourself up, we simply mean reaffirming to yourself that you are worth your crushes’ time and more importantly, realizing that the worst thing that can happen is that he’ll say no. When you think about it, the stress of mulling over whether or not your crush will be into you is much harder to deal with than a one-time rejection. It’s best to just go for it, one way or the other.

Tip #2: Practice Makes Perfect

If you can’t quite work up the courage yet, try building your confidence when there’s less at stake. Go out and just ask someone else who you find attractive and interesting out, even if it’s someone you’ve never met. It’ll go one of two ways: he’ll say yes and your confidence will be boosted, or he’ll say no and you’ll realize that rejection isn’t the end of the world. Either way, it’ll move you one step closer to your end goal of asking out your crush.

Tip #3: The Backup Plan

If you still can’t get over your paralyzing anxiety, one way to approach the situation may be to have a “backup plan” that will help lessen the blow of rejection. If he says no, you can play it off like you were only asking him on a bet or something like that. He might not buy it, but it will at least defuse any awkward moments and let you save a little face.

These tips can only get you so far – when it comes down to it you’ve just got to go for it and ask the question. If nothing else, do it to put your own mind at ease!