Enhancing Your Relationship
So you’ve been dating your significant other for a while now and you’ve noticed a turn for the worse. You’re not spending as much time together, or having as much fun when you are, and you find little things bother you more often than they used to. Before you go off breaking up assuming that the two of you are just no good for each other, here are five things you can do to improve your relationship.
1. Take some time to make yourself feel good.
It might seem like a step backwards, but remember when you first started dating and you always dressed to impress? Sometimes couples who have been together for a while get used to each other and just stop taking those extra moments to make themselves look and feel good. When you feel good about yourself, your partner should notice the difference.
2. Change the way you eat.
That doesn’t mean you have to cook every meal or stop eating out, but instead of eating on the couch or someplace away from each other, eat together. Even grabbing a bite to eat out rather than running through the drive-thru instigates conversations and makes a meal feel more intimate, bringing you closer together.
3. Make time for each other.
This one seems pretty obvious, but it’s more than just making a date night here and there (although that’s also important). Your partner is supposed to be the person you can turn to for anything, but if life is all hustle and bustle when are you supposed to turn to each other? Even if it’s just a few minutes before bed, take the time to talk to each other.
4. Try new things together.
Often people lose a spark because there’s nothing new in their lives that they share, so they don’t have any new common interests. Whether it’s visiting a new restaurant or checking out a random local event, doing something different gives you a change in topics to talk about.
5. Increase physical intimacy.
This doesn’t mean you need to have more sex, but more touching. When you’re talking to your partner, touch their hand. When you’re sitting together, rest your head on them. People feel far apart emotionally when they are far apart physically.
There’s a chance you’ll do all of these things and it still doesn’t feel right anymore, and that’s fine. People aren’t always meant to be together. The most important thing you can do is give yourself the best chance for romance.