Is it Time to Move in with Your Partner?
You’ve been dating for a long time and now you’re wondering if it’s time to take that next step and move in together. Fortunately for you, there are plenty of indicators that not only let you know that you two can handle living together but if your partner is ready to move in with you. Before you jump the gun and ask your partner if they are ready to take that leap with you, look for these three things that say you’re both ready.
1. You spend as much time with your partner at their place as they spend with you at yours.
This might seem like a trivial thing, but having a good idea of the other person’s lifestyle is incredibly important when it comes to living with someone. If the two of you are always hanging out at your place, you might not be getting a true sense of how they live in their own place. It might have been clean the few times you visited but that could easily be because they cleaned up knowing you were coming over. However if you are there with them often it’s not likely they clean every single time just for you.
The same applies for them being at your place often enough. You want to make sure that they can handle whatever your strange quirks are regarding your personal space because when you’re living together it becomes both of your personal space. If the two of you can spend time at either person’s place and don’t have any preferences for where you’re spending time together, that’s a great indication you can live together with minimal fuss.
2. You’re not fighting all the time.
It doesn’t matter what you’re arguing about; if you are fighting with your partner often then you aren’t ready to live together. Every couple argues, there’s no doubt about it, but you need to be past whatever issues you currently have because moving in together can create a whole new set of problems. As long as you aren’t getting on each other’s cases over little things on a regular basis, you’re in a good position to take that next step.
3. You enjoy spending time together without being together.
If you’re still in the stage where when you’re with your partner you have to constantly be doing things together, you are not ready to live with each other. However, if you find yourselves doing separate things but within each other’s presence and still feeling connected to each other, you could be ready for the next step.
If all of these things describe your relationship, the best thing you can do is talk to you partner about what they want to do. Making the decision to move in together might seem simple but two people making a decision to share one life is never a piece of cake.